For me personally, I overlooked all the reasons we wouldn’t work and I made up excuses whenever he let me down. I did everything to convince myself that all the wrongs didn’t matter, but even then, I knew deep down that it wasn’t real. So in response to your question: I think if it isn’t real, you’ll just know, no matter what you want so much to believe.

I don’t think it’s unhealthy, as long as you don’t change yourself to be what you think they want. You could try being more outgoing or try activities they like so you have something in common, but don’t do anything outside of your comfort zone.

The way I see it, this guy’s not being fair to you nor his fiancée. It seems like the only person who’s winning in this situation is him, since he has two women who love him. I’m not saying he’s a bad person. It’s very possible that he can’t make up his mind and is just as confused as you are. But my personal opinion is that you really do have to give him an ultimatum. This arrangement can’t go on forever, and you’re clearly torn up about it. I would suggest talking it through with him, but also remember to take his fiancée’s feelings into consideration. This is the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, and you have to truly think about whether you feel the same way about him. Do you feel strongly enough to be alright with breaking them up, if it comes to that?

I think it’s perfectly normal to always feel something for an ex. Very rarely do you ever hear about people being able to move on completely, no matter how well the break-up went. We always have memories of how happy that person made us at the time, and it’s honestly okay to look back and smile. You don’t have to forget.
At the same time, focus on your current relationship. This is the guy you’re with now, so make new memories with him and just enjoy the love :)

First of all, I’m sorry that you have to go through something like that. I know exactly how you feel. In situations like this, I think there are pretty much only two main options. One, you could try to move on and let time change the way you feel (which seems impossible, but it really does happen). Or two, you could stay and continue to love her even though she doesn’t feel the same way.
When you love someone, they make your life better, even if they don’t love you back the way you wish they would. So even though the choice is yours at the end of the day, I would suggest not giving up on her, because that would be like giving up on a large part of yourself. Regardless of whether her relationship with that other guy works out or not, I think you should stay. It’s too hard to find good people these days, so if you could be that person for her, that safe place for her to hide if things go wrong, then don’t give up.

I think it’s more than possible, because they know so much about each other and have probably been through a lot together. Speaking from personal experience, I don’t think there’s anything in particular to ‘do’ to move out of the friendship zone. For me, it was more like something just clicked one day and I saw that person differently. And perhaps that’s what needs to happen in both people — a realization that it’s rare to find someone who knows you so well, someone who understands you, someone who makes you feel complete.

I think it’s going to be tough, because boys at that age are not very emotionally mature and generally don’t know what they’re looking for. He might not be aware of how much work it’ll be, so it depends on what sort of relationship you want. Don’t expect too much (like those grand displays of love you see in movies) but don’t let your doubts stop you from giving it a go, either! Good luck :)

I think it depends on the kind of relationship they had, and how it ended. If she made it clear that she didn’t want to have anything to do with him after the break-up, then sending such a text would not be such a good idea. If they’re still friends, then it might be okay, but he should be careful with his wording so that it doesn’t come across as clingy or sarcastic.

I think that you should go with your dream. If you don’t, you might live to regret it. Too often, people think about what could’ve been and they’re haunted by the fact that they didn’t go for something when they had the chance.
You have a wonderful boyfriend, and I think he would understand that this something you really want to do. You are not a horrible person for not feeling as ‘sure’ as he does. Two people are often at different points in the same relationship, so that’s perfectly normal.

You can’t live your life governed by fear, because that isn’t really living at all. You have to let go of your worries. If this is what you want to do, then of course there are ‘risks’ involved — like him finding someone else, or you not meeting another guy. Also, it’s not fair to him; you can’t keep him as a back-up in case things don’t work out.

I don’t know if he’s really angry, but he’s probably saying all those things because he wants to keep you away. He sounds happy with his new girlfriend, and he might think that you’ll try to mess things up for him.
Neither of you handled things too well, and I guess you should start a conversation by saying that. I think you should tell him everything, if it’ll give you closure. If those questions of yours need to be answered, then you should reach out and give it one more shot. It might very well be your last chance, and you don’t want to live with all the “what if’s”.
You have to be completely honest if you want to know how he really feels. Just remember to stay calm and keep your cool throughout the conversation. Don’t have any expectations of what might happen; just let things flow naturally and see where to go from there.

I read your message, and it’s a tough situation so I can’t make any decisions for you. It sounds like you’re really worn down by the whole experience — but also keep in mind that this is a very difficult time for him too. If he has no one else to be there for him, then perhaps you should stay, just one more time. If you truly can’t take the physical and emotional toll anymore, then consider how ending the relationship could affect both of you. In situations like this, sometimes sacrifices must be made.
Personally, I’ve gone through a situation like yours, and staying beside that person was the best decision I ever could’ve made. That’s just my two cents; it doesn’t mean you have to do the same. I know you’re at the end of your rope, so I won’t call you out for insulting me. But you don’t know what I’ve been through, so you’re in no position to call me shallow.
Take care, I hope things work out for you. I’ll keep your boyfriend in my prayers.

I’m so sorry that you feel this way. It’s a really tough situation to be in, but I have no doubt that you can make it through. Firstly, two weeks is not a long time at all. At this stage, giving each other space is important. Both of you are trying to figure out a lot of things. Let her have a little time to think; you seem to have come to your decision, but she may not have decided yet (even though she sounded firm about ending things). Don’t try to convince her of anything or try to influence her decisions, because that may just annoy her and push her in the opposite direction. You two could also use this time to try and date other people. Maybe you’ll end up just as happy (or happier) and realize that, even though you truly thought you were in love before, this new relationship is even more amazing. On the flip side, maybe both of you will date other people, only to get back together because nothing else could compare to what you guys had. Either way, definitely give her — and yourself — time. I promise you, take things day by day and you’ll see things differently. Don’t worry about the future, because the right things will happen whether we plan for them or not :)